| Sex and pregnancy |
So now you’re pregnant and you know the sex worked but if you're like most of my patients, you may have some or perhaps all of the following questions:
Is it safe to have sex? Yes, it is safe if you are both healthy and there are no concerns about the pregnancy, go ahead enjoy! Most women find that their vaginas are more lubricated and this heightens the enjoyment for both of you. Fluctuating hormones can enhance your desire to make love more often, so it won’t be the mum to be who is tired. However there are times when sex is not advisable...
Should any of these occur you must go to your GP or/and Midwife. We will check for all of the above possibilities and advise you about cause and whether you can continue having sex. Don’t forget you do not have to have full, penetrative sex to enjoy each other; there is masturbation, oral sex, massage; let your imagination work for you. Every couple have a unique relationship what works for one may not be for another, talk about it. Can I use any position? The simple answer is yes, if you are fit enough to attempt ‘sex gymnastics’ - Good luck! The fact is as your baby grows you will be less able as bump gets in the way. If you don’t have access to the Kama Sutra think about the following:
Towards the very end you may feel quite uncomfortable but evidence suggests that semen contains the same prostaglandin as the pessaries to induce pregnancies. So if you can this is a natural way to get things going. Don’t worry if, towards the end, you start feeling tired, exhausted and the idea of sex leaves you wanting to lock yourself away. You may feel unattractive and don’t believe your partner when he says, "You are beautiful". Never forget that most men actually do see their partners as beautiful - you are carrying his child, you are amazing, you are a fertility goddess. You on the other hand think you have a gigantic bum and look like the Michelin Man! If you have reached this point have no fear, not long to go now! The best advice with regards to positioning is do what is right and feels comfortable for the two of you! My partner isn’t the father, is that alright? As long as you are both healthy and know for sure that you are not passing on any unwanted diseases - stop worrying. I say this because to be pregnant you had unprotected sex so be sure that you are clear and your new partner will not be concerned about unprotected sex because you are already pregnant. Just stop and think first. Will my baby know? No your baby will not know. They will receive the ‘feel good’ hormones produced during love making and this will not harm them but they certainly won’t be watching! Can I harm my baby? No you can't, unless you have any symptoms that need checking out like bleeding, a change in your discharge or fluid leaking, which may indicate the fluids are leaking from around your baby. If you have previously had a premature birth it is best to speak to your GP or Midwife first. Other times that deep penetrative is not advised is if your placenta is low-lying or your cervix is known to dilated (you will have had previous history or symptoms and will be aware of this. Is it okay to orgasm? It's absolutely fine, as I said before you may find your sexual senses more enhanced and experience orgasms more regularly. Enjoy it whilst there is no baby to disturb you. There is one important thing to remember, COMMUNICATE, if you are both happy and feel no discomfort then it’s okay. It’s when you don’t communicate that your partner can get upset or worry needlessly. Women’s emotions can be more labile when pregnant, one moment laughing, the next crying. So, the both of you need to be patient, talk and listen, really listen and if you still have a question then ask. |
